It's the age old question, when is the best time to call someone after a first day? Many people think that calling the next day to tell the person what a great time you had and to try to set up the next date is the best way to go. Others think that calling the next shows this person that you really, really want them and/or that you are desperate, either of which is looked upon in a negative light.  

If you choose to call the following day and tell the person what a fantastic time you had and that you would love to see them again and they shoot you down, would have waiting a few days have really made a difference? And what if you wait a few days to call him/her and by then he/she has met someone else and is no longer interested in you?

Either way, wouldn't it just be easier to call the person the following day, even if that immediately finding out that they never want to see you again? After all, I think if the person really likes you and wants to get to know you better, they will say yes to that second date, regardless of how much time has passed.

What do you think?

Do you wait a few days to call someone after a first day? Or do call right away to tell them what a great time you had? Whatever your answer is, what is the reason for your answer?

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The old adage of "I don't like to play games" is still around today. So with this self professed claim of hating such games.....why do people still so often feel the need to play them in the process of meeting each other? At some point  in time in the relationship, the real person is always going to either shine through or expose their true darker self! On behalf of those that do find themselves dragged into the "game", I think perhaps it is often times simply a reaction of trying to put our best foot forward and present the best self possible. But buyer beware! Look closely at the relationship  trip you are about to embark on......

When you play games in your relationship, you are not being completely honest with yourself or your significant other. Since the basis of any fantastic relationship is honesty and trust, playing games is usually the wrong choice. You don’t want to build a relationship on misconceptions and  lies or by breaking the other person down.
 
Rather than playing hard to get and making the other person think that you aren’t interested at all or have 20 other people chasing you –  why not take a different path and show your interest from the initial introduction to one another. . Don’t you want to know from the beginning if the relationship even has a chance before you "open mouth and insert foot" or someone's self esteem gets in the way of a meaningful beginning to something great?!

Also, rather than playing the victim in your realtionship and constantly whining that your significant other doesn’t love you, care about you or is taking advantage of the relationship in some form or manner. How about honestly telling your partner exactly how you feel? I keep a crystal ball in my office as a symbol to remind myself and my patients that we can't really read each other's minds! The issues of expectations and what we imagine that our partners should either do, say, or just plain know about our feelings, desires, and romantic notions is a huge problem for many couples. The reality of how this whole relationship concept should play out is simply a "script" in each individual's mind. Unless we actually communicate honestly and from the heart - love can unfortunately become a game of power and control.
 
 
What do you think?
Do you think that by playing game you will get the most out of your relationship?  Do you play games in the beginning and then soften as the relationship becomes solid? Or do you feel that playing games starts the relationship off on the wrong foot?

 
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Chemistry can be a good and bad thing. Chemistry is good when you make love with it. Chemistry is bad when you make crack with it.   -Adam Sandler

What is this thing called chemistry? There are many naysayers out there that don’t believe in love at first sight. However, for those  of you that had the chance to watch the Bachelorette this season ( I only caught the last episode) it should have been  immediately obvious that Ali would choose Roberto. Her body language clearly evidenced her interest in the man, leaning in as she spoke to him, looking into his eyes as they spoke, and the excitement and energy they exhibited together as a couple.  As readily proclaimed  in the finale of The Bachelorette, chemistry is alive and well.

Ali, this season’s bachelorette stated when interviewed; that after all was said and done ...although she initially didn’t believe in love at first sight, her final choice Roberto  was the one that she gave the first impression rose to at the beginning of the series.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on these issues~

 If you don’t feel chemistry in the beginning, should you still date the person anyway hoping that chemistry will develop later on?

On the other hand, if the chemistry is really hot in the beginning and when you kiss your date goodnight you feel dizzy, does that mean this is the perfect person for you?

What if you have known someone for 5 years and you are pretty sure it is more than friendship, however nothing intimate has come from it. Do you make the first move?

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